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When you read about something depressing or hear about a horrible event on the news or on Facebook, first, just allow yourself to absorb the story. Try not to sink into denial or nihilism, don’t feel like you have to change what’s going on, just allow yourself to recognize that this is happening.

So, try this right now.  Think about something you’ve recently seen or heard on the media or social media that upsets you. Write a few notes in your Joyality Journal about this, including your feelings.

Now, go online and search out some good news. If possible, search out good news about the same story or event. Look for stories of groups finding creative and inspiring solutions to the problem, working together to create change, or people coming together to mourn in peace over the horrible event. Sit with that knowledge, feel the care and joy it brings, though it may be bittersweet, remember that there are good and beautiful things happening in the world everyday too, even if the media doesn’t report on them.

Some websites to try if you’re feeling stuck are:




Huffington Post: Good News


Write a few notes about these good news stories, and how you feel about them.

Source: This process was developed by us.
Here’s an example of a good news story video link: Joanna Macy: From the Great Unraveling to the Great Turning 

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2 Replies to “Balance”

  1. This is the result of me doing this exercise this morning (20m – you must be joking!)

    F. G. M. (Balance)

    I just read in the Independent online that FGM cutters are being flown into the UK to perform this operation on young girls there. This could easily be happening in Australia too. FGM is illegal in the UK, I hope it is in Australia but I’m not sure. It’s also been made illegal in the UK to take girls abroad for it, but again I don’t know about here. It doesn’t seem to be illegal to bring cutters in, but in the UK at least suspicious arrivals can be searched for possible tools.

    The whole proposition if I think about it, is totally abhorrent and appalling, horrific, unbelievable, shocking, and I can see no excuse or justification for it. I am against male circumcision too, though I am circumcised and it’s consequences are far less potentially lethal and drastically difficult to live with than FGM.

    My mother didn’t want me to be circumcised. My father apparently came prancing to her bedside when she was still in recovery, with a small parade of other relatives and authorised Jewish zombies (my term) and took me from her, very much against her will, so she told me.

    I don’t believe these practices have the remotest vestige of spiritual (as opposed to religious) justification, or health rationale. My opinion is that they are a moronic perpetuation of archaic cultural practices designed to promote tribal domination by elderly males. I don’t know how they started and I don’t know how they can be stopped but I’m sure they should be stopped, universally. I think they make a substantial contribution to the prevalence of sexual assault and misogyny, and the dominance of patriarchal culture.

    The Independent article quotes extensively a survivor who works in London on prevention, without mentioning her employer or group, hopefully for good reasons. It also mentions Operation Limelight which “sees police, the Border Force officers and social workers intercept flights from countries in Africa and the Middle East where FGM is prevalent, aims to raise awareness and prevent girls being taken abroad to undergo the procedure.”

    I appreciate the newspaper giving this issue some exposure – actually near the top of the online version when I found it. I appreciate the workers in Operation Limelight, and the survivor and whoever she works with or for. There is clearly a very long way to go – if so many – thousands at least – are being mutilated in the UK and probably in other Western countries, the figures in countries where the practice is considered normal or acceptable hardly bear thinking about. I’m sure there are other people and organisations working on this issue, in many and various countries and I say all power to them.

    What can I do? I already reposted the story. Now I’m thinking to look for a relevant charity and make a donation (don’t ask me why the Independent doesn’t name and link to any).

    I’m happy to say that a few seconds searching on line turns up many such organisations, for example Forward UK whose website says:
    60,000 girls under 15 are at risk of FGM in the UK
    137,000 girls and women are living with the consequences of FGM in the UK
    Over 130 million girls and women worldwide have undergone FGM
    FGM is practiced in more than 29 countries across Africa, parts of the Middle East, South East Asia and countries where migrants from FGM affected communities live.

    So if you think you or someone you know is at risk of FGM, or you want information, or to donate, do the search yourself and go for it.

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